How I HATE that word. It brings up memories and tears of times that I should have succeeded but did not or could not. Failure is a personal experience (one woman’s failure is the next man’s success). It’s all about how you choose to look at the experience.
A friend of mine called me this week, crying and lamenting at her failure to be a better mum, friend, business woman and wife. She felt overwhelmed by life. Somehow, trying to juggle all these roles in her life was her responsibility and she felt that if she dropped the ball here and there, then she had failed. If she was acing it at work but got less than 50% at home, then was she really succeeding at life? I asked her who was marking her? Who was the judge here? Her? Her peers? Her family? Workmates? And were they in a position to mark anyone high or low?
Remember how we spoke about resolutions and making goals out of them? I hope you managed to list everything that you want to achieve this year and you are well on your way to achieving everything you have set out to do.
But for those who have dropped the ball, how are you doing? Are you feeling like you have failed? Are you berating yourself in the mirror and calling yourself a failure?
Well, don’t be too hard on yourself. Sometimes we fail and it’s ok. Here at Konza, we want you to fail, learn and succeed. How else will you grow? So to help you stand up tall, here are our five favourite quotes about failure:
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Denis Waitley
“Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.” – J.K. Rowling
“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” – Johnny Cash
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
Share with us in the comments section… have you failed recently? What helped you get back up? What is failure to you?